Marriages between Western men and Thai women are increasing at the rate of about 10% a year, according to an April 4, 2011 article in the Bangkok Post. In this article, I’ll share some of the reasons why thousands of Western men – just like you – are finding lasting happiness with Thai women - REAL Thai women.
Here’s a Sampling of What Western Men Say About Their Thai Wives:
“I never specifically went looking for a Thai girl, but I am happy I found her! We celebrated our 12th anniversary last spring, and have two children. She had a very traditional upbringing, and was working as a primary school teacher when we met. Our long, formal courtship allowed us the time and freedom to really get to know each other, and to discover just how much we had in common. My wife is very modest, has a great sense of humor, and is loved by everybody here in my home town in England.”
“Unlike some American women, who demand equality along with physical and financial security, my Thai wife is easygoing, thoughtful, and patient. We’ve developed a sort of ‘mutual intuition’ regarding each other, so that we meet each other’s needs willingly with no sense of obligation. There’s a balance that was just never there with the American women I’d had relationships with in the past.”
“Little things struck me when I first met her: she didn’t wear makeup, nor did she paint her fingernails, or wore high heels. She showed up in jeans, and I found she could make me laugh, drive a truck with a stick shift, tie a knot faster and better than most boy scouts, and cook a mean green curry. As a country boy from the Australian outback, I’m falling in love all over again just writing this! She’s my best buddy, and I am amazed and grateful for her love and loyalty.”
Are these happy couples the exception, or the rule?
It all depends on who you are and what you’re looking for in a relationship.
7 Reasons Western Men Find the Possibility of a Thai Wife so Attractive
Western guys often offer the following reasons for their attraction to Thai women:
- A physical appearance that many Western men consider exotic and beautiful.
- An easygoing, patient nature, encouraged within the Thai culture, possibly because of its Buddhist influence.
- A quiet femininity that is encouraged, rather than suppressed, by the Thai culture.
- A polite softness and aversion to conflict.
- A respect – almost an obsession – for faithfulness to the family and related values.
- A strong drive to take care of the man she loves, and meet his needs.
- A desire for nothing more than to be loved and cared for with respect.
And those reasons just might explain the huge number of men who come to Thailand each year looking for the perfect “Miss Right.” Thousands of Western men book a week in Phuket, or go club-hopping in Pattaya, or hang out in the tourist hotspots, all with the vain hope of meeting the tiny, feminine, soft creature that will fulfill their fantasies of the perfect wife.
Most of the time, their week in Thailand ends up as a series of meaningless hookups -- not with “Miss Right,” but with “Miss Right Now.”
If you’re okay with that, more power to you. Some guys have no problem with a pay-to-play relationship, which no doubt contributes to Thailand’s thriving sex tourism industry.
But if you’re looking for a serious, long-term commitment – even marriage – then there exist better opportunities to meet decent women than hanging out in bars and discos.
Some marriage-minded men troll the many online dating sites and chat rooms, hoping to hook up with the girl of their dreams online.
They exchange photos, emails, and phone numbers, and may even spend several hours on the telephone getting to know their dream girl – until they invest thousands of dollars and fly to Thailand to meet her, only to discover the woman they meet is nothing like her online persona.
In other words, it’s easy to get scammed. And if you’re serious about meeting a decent Thai woman and settling down into a happy, lasting relationship, it’s not a good idea to waste your time chatting online or traveling to Thailand on your own only to meet someone who may be more interested in your wallet than she is in you.
So how do those lucky Western guys find their ideal Thai wives or partners?
- They’re thoughtful and selective in their quest, and actively seek a respectable Thai woman.
Smart Western guys who find lasting, loving, and healthy relationships realize they’ll never find roses in a weed patch. They don’t frequent the bars, the discos, or the nightclubs.
- They take the time to learn about Thai culture, traditions, and manners.
In Thailand, a well-brought-up woman never initiates contact with a man she’s interested in. She’ll wait for a trusted friend or family member to make the introduction.
- They’re willing to follow the more traditional Thai dating and courtship conventions.
Dating and courtship in Thailand follow a much slower, more “old fashioned” path. Expressing physical affection – in public or in private – is welcomed ONLY when the relationship has become serious, and is a seen as a sign of commitment.
- They recognize that marriage to a Thai woman is a “family” affair.
In Thailand, it’s often said that you are not just marrying the woman – you’re marrying her whole family. A respectable Thai woman is deeply committed to the well being of her parents, her siblings, and her extended family. If you are contemplating a serious relationship with a Thai woman, it’s important to realize, and be respectful of, the need for the family to be involved in your courtship, your wedding plans, and even your budget.
- They realize that any successful relationship depends on mutual respect, open communication, and clear boundaries.
You’ve got to feel comfortable enough in your own skin to allow your Thai wife or girlfriend to be herself – and clearly communicate your wants, needs, and boundaries as well as encourage her to do the same. Taking a stand for, and encouraging open communication, thoughtful listening, and curiosity about your partner’s upbringing, culture, and values can lead to a loving, long-lasting and fulfilling relationship – no matter who your partner is or where she’s from.
There’s no doubt about it – in Thailand you can find a wonderful, feminine woman who will make a loving and faithful partner. Many men just like you have.
And there are just as many warm, educated, hard-working and decent Thai women who find you just as exotic, handsome, and intriguing as you find them.
The question is: how do you meet and get to know them?
If you have friends or business associates in Thailand to help educate you about the culture, make the introductions, act as intermediaries or interpreters, and generally make sure that everything goes smoothly while you explore the Thai dating scene, you’re more than halfway there.
After all, no decent Thai woman is going to make the first move!
But if you don’t have those contacts, where do you start?
We’re Here to Help!
Michael (my Australian husband) and I have been married and living in Bangkok for some years now.
Our business started almost accidentally, as many of Michael’s friends kept asking him to introduce them to my friends in Bangkok.
And my women friends asked me to introduce them to Michael’s friends.
After we arranged a few successful introductions, helped our mutual friends organize safe, stress-free dates, and saw how happy our mutual friends were together, we were delighted when several of those relationships blossomed into long-term relationships – many even into marriage.
We saw we had a gift for making all parties concerned – the Western men, the Thai women, and their families—feel safe enough to get to know each other in a stress-free, comfortable way.
We started our business, Meet Me Now Bangkok Co.Ltd. out of a sincere desire to help honest, hardworking guys just like you by providing the services traditionally offered only by a Thai woman’s closest friends or family members.
We provide two services to help honest Western guys meet and get to know eligible, pre-screened Thai women with proven backgrounds. First, we offer the Thai Lady Date Finder™, our online members-only dating service with a difference.
We screen all our members, both men and women, to make absolutely certain they are who they represent themselves to be.
And if you’re already in Thailand, or ready to plan a trip to meet one of our ladies you’ve met online, we offer Thai Lady Dating Events™, a safe, hassle-free, romantic, first-class way to get to know wonderful, eligible women who are just as eager to meet you.
From meeting you at the airport, checking you into your hotel, to arranging your dates (including making all the necessary reservations AND providing a driver), we guide you – and her – through the process of getting to know each other in a no-pressure, fun and secure way.
If you’re looking for the perfect way to meet a Thai woman – a REAL woman – you won’t find an easier, friendlier way to meet her. And she’ll be just as delighted to meet you!
Contact us now to let us help you meet the Thai woman of your dreams.